Monday, November 3, 2008

Okay so I had a thought...

So I had a thought yesterday. I wanted to post some things on my blog for the past couple weeks and haven't.
Here are my reasons:
1. I have given this blog address to all our family.
I don't want to offend anyone of my family members. I want to keep everyone happy.
2. I don't want loose blog friend/readers because I love all of you. Seriously love ya!
3. I'm scared to go ALL out there for you guys cuz of the internet and scary people.


Here is my thought...this is my blog, I should do what I want. If you don't like it, then leave a comment and tell me why. (Be nice but tell me how you feel!)

So my question to you is, how much do you 'censor' your blog?

24 comments:

Laura said...

I censor mine quite a bit. Sometimes I try to work around a subject and end up making it sound worse though...
I have a few private blogs I share with select people though because sometimes you just can't share everything. My private blogs aren't journal blogs but idea blogs and stuff but I have thought of making one just for girl talk or whatever.

Lindsay JJ said...

I guess it all depends on what your purpose for blogging is.... mine is just to keep my friends and fam updated. I save my venting or my sorrows or my real raw thoughts for my journal, my husband or my sister(a very unbiased helpful listener). If you want to work your thoughts out on the internet.... GO FOR IT!!!

Candid Carrie said...

I would examine the purpose of your blog. Maybe your goals changed since you started.

1. Is it a vehicle for family updates? And now you want more creativity ....

2. Then start a second blog and don't mention it. Use your primary blog for family updates and begin a second blog where you become creative.

But no matter what, I recommend not "bitching" and speaking frankly about relationships with friends or family because it inevitably comes back to haunt you and being grossly misunderstood.

The written word is unable to detect sarcastic humor and no matter how obvious the sarcasm is to you, well others may not see it that way.

Good luck, and if I can be of any assistance or you want to run new blog ideas past me I don't mind listening.

Rachel H. said...

I feel like I have no choice but to censor. I have had people come back at me accusing me of things when I spoke even a portion of what was on my mind--including just feeling plain lonely. I was stunned! I try to put my feelings when I know it doesn't affect someone else negatively--but that is about all I share. I have a lot i WANT to post, but just don't because I know it would come back to bite me. But to each his own, really. I am dying to know what you are wanting to share! So if you do a private blog, LET ME IN!

jill jill bo bill said...

I agree with Carrie 100%. That's scary in and of itself...we share a brain ya know. Start another juicy one. I can't say some words because my mom reads, but it's for the better. I COULD talk like a sailor, or worse, Tiffany! heh heh

Simply AnonyMom said...

I censor t just a little. I do not use my name nor the names of my family as per my hubby request. I do post pictures though and open about which state we live in.

My hubby reads my blog so I do not post vents aout him nor bad mouth my IL's. That is just noce to do since they have no rebuttal.

I think it is YOUR blog so write what you like. Your family will understand.

Honey Mommy said...

Well, my parents and my in-laws read my blog so there are probably some things I avoid posting about. But I have to say that they have probably learned more about me though my blog than they have through talking to me!

Kate said...

I bring up things going on in my life. There are a lot of times I want to vent about family situations and family members who drive me batty....but unfortunatly they read my blog!! lol. That is pretty much the only censoring I do. Oh, and I don't use all the swear words that I would usually use.........just kidding!!! I love your blog, so don't change it too much if you do :) Like some of the other ladies said, think about what your blog is about...good luck!

Julie said...

I don't censor mine. But mine is just for updating family and friends. I have my personal journal that I write in every week. If there is something that I need to vent about, I usually do it there. I agree with some of the other comments, if you want a place to vent on line, then start another private blog. I think a little venting on your main blog is fine. People understand that everyone needs to vent every now and then. But on your private blog, you could vent about whatever you want without worring.

Julie said...

Sorry, I forgot to add, sometimes I enjoy reading other peoples venting. Usually it is something that I agree with and it makes me feel better knowing that I am not the only one.

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

As you know...not much! Love ya!

Amy Amy Bo Bamey said...

I say start a new blog that is censor free and only let us know about it ;) LOL

I do enjoy reading other blogs that are more touchy than mine.

Rebecca said...

I censor my blog by approving comments before they appear. I didn't used to do that (or rather - have to do that) - but since Prop 8 and topics alike started to generate a lot of attention and liberal views, I had to place that control back on my blog.

Other than that, I just use common sense. I don't post pictures that would reveal my exact location. I don't share extremely personal information (i.e. Home address, exact birthdays, naked pictures of my kids or nieces and nephews (I have no clue why people do that) ). Stuff like that.

CJ, the Purple Diva said...

There are things I will not post.
Like where I work, where my DH works, my last name, my address, my phone number, my weight, my 'wife life', and personal things about my kids or grand kids.
Other than those things and a few others, I am an OPEN book! LOL

Galloping Gobets said...

I have been a victim of a vicious person who found personal info on the internet and wrote horrible emails to the point where I had to change email addies and accounts. and this was from someone who i had never met in my life, but knew of.
I keep my blog for fun travel news and another one for sewing projects. I never vent. I save venting for my hand written journal. I don't want my venting to be in the ethernet where it can be found by anyone. A family can find my journal when I die and I won't mind. But I don't need Jane Doe to find a blog and use it against me when I have no control over it.
No matter how innocent your blog may be, it can always be viewed/interpreted in a manner unbecoming. Sorry, as a victim I have a jaded point of view.

Paul and Nikki Fawson said...

I usually only write about the cute, messy or fown right crazy things my kids do. It usually has nothing to do with me. I vent to anyone who will listen when they are standing in front of me though. I think you should write about what you want to though. People can read it or not.

Mal's Randumb Thoughts said...

okay, i do censor.

there have been times when i really wanted to VENT some things as well and I just don't...because i'm scared whoever i'm venting about it will find it somehow, anyways... Start a little on-the-side blog, but you ahould tell me what it is 'cause i love venting! ;)

Jenni Jiggety said...

Nothing that would make my mom mad or get me fired!

amelia bedelia said...

I do censor (a little!)...my family does read and I don't want them to know what a dirty mouth I have...plus, my coworkers read and I really have to watch in that area! can't say that the old lady in the next door office really gets on my nerves! hee. but if you really want to say "girl" things....start another blog! ' I will be your #1 reader! I love your blog, though!

Tena said...

I don't give my kids names, and up until today I never shared current pictures of the boys, I started with my oldest.
I talk about anything that I feel like talking about. I am sure some of my family reads my blog, but I don't write anything that I wouldn't say to someone's face, so it is all good!
YOu have to do what is best for you!

Hope your having a nice day

Mel said...

I admit, I do censor. There are still some sides of me that I think should be "tamed" and not exposed via the WORLD Wide Web.

I actualy have two blogs, one for my family that is quite censored.

On a scale of 1 - 5, five being quite censored and 1 being let it all out. My family blog is a 4.

I only blog about my son and family events etc. It's the 'mom me' blog.

The blog that shares my hobbies, favorite ways to spend time and such was created so I wouldn't have to censor anything - you know, let it all out, take me as I am! But that didn't happen. Within a couple of weeks I had gained a great group of online friends and didn't want to scare them off by the 'real me'. So I give them the "crafty, carefree, blissfully happy me".

Maybe I'll have to have a 3rd blog to be my deep self. Hey, I'm pretty sure that my therapist would NOT like this 'creating different personalities (blogs)'!

Anyway, you've sparked a great debate in my head. I would love to hear how you plan on dealing with it!

Becky said...

Just write whatever you want. Don't be disrespectful of any of your readers though. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Julie said...

I censor mine more than I would like. Like for instance, this weekend I'm heading out on a girls' getaway with some friends. But one or two people that no about my blog were not invited (nor, in my opinion should they) and will get all bent out of shape if they hear about the trip. I also don't post much about my extended family. They know the address!

Sissy said...

Sometimes I totally wish some of the people I know in real life didn't know about my blogs but it's too late now. I think they've had their suspicions about my insanity so now it's just confirmed. I try to forget about everyone who reads when I write. Ambien helps in that regard :)